Solitude or loneliness?

Today I came across a wonderful article published my Mia Freedman about her 'escape to the country experience'. This had nothing to do with a seaside house move but an escape from the overwhelming demands of being a mother, wife and running a household. The fact going to the bathroom when you have children is difficult as I have no idea why but this seems to be the time when they absolutely need you.



This situation is not unique to Mia, I'm sure every Mother out there knows exactly how she feels; the only difference is how we handle it. Some need the night out or weekend away with the girls others just need space to spend by themselves.

The one thing to keep in mind is that this doesn't last for ever. Those same children will be wanting to spend time with their friends and not you before you know it. Time has changed many things and the roll of Mothers today seems to be exasperating. There is no more 'go outside and play and be back by dark' but the one big difference is our children actually want to talk to us. The majority of Mothers work wether it be from home or going to the office. Our children are in daycare or after school care so night times become busy with homework, cooking, washing, ironing and the like, not like it used to be when Mums would do this during the day.

I was a little like Mia and would cherish my time alone just to breath, eat what I liked not what the majority wanted, watch a movie or what I wanted to watch on TV. I booked myself into a city Hotel one weekend just to do this as I had been working so hard and was so tired my family was going to cop the brunt of my stress when it wasn't their fault. I would love the one weekend a year that my children would go to Father Daughter camp and felt guilty about the joy of having no boys.


My life has come full circle now. From a house with a rotating door for mine and others children I now find myself with one at home. The last two weekends she has spent away and even when she is here I don't seem to see much of her. I like my own company, always have done, but just sometimes I miss that hustle and bustle my home once had.

On the upside I'm off to Thailand in just under 2 weeks with friends and I'm not worried that the house will be a wreck when I get home, I'm going to visit other friends in Port Macquarie later in September where a group of us from different areas will meet up and it's time to start organising where to go next year. Depending on finances back to Italy sounds tempting.



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