Life in the single lane.

There has been much a do about Jennifer Aniston's engagement after her divorce from Brad Pitt seven years ago and the succession of boyfriends that followed. The tone seems to be 'ah, at last she has found someone' like she was going to spend the rest of her life alone.




We all like to see others happy, damn it, we all like to be happy but do we need a life partner to do it?

Society expects us at a certain age to be 'attached' but does this constitute happiness? I have one particular girlfriend that is divorced with three children, the youngest 17. He ex husband caused her enough grief to do her 10 lifetimes so she is single and not about to attempt to find a new partner (she also thinks she has bad taste in Men which unfortunately I would have to agree with). I have another friend who has recently married for the third time and is as happy as could be. She was always going to marry again and would search for a new mate with gusto; my only hope is she has found the right one this time. There is a gaggle of girls that have long term partners after divorce as well as the ones that have had successful marriages that have lasted a lifetime (so happy for them that they got it right the first time!).
The Men don't seem to have the same dilemmas that women do. They seem to change from one partner to another (often with an overlap) or have many girlfriends sometimes simultaneously. It's not a problem for them to 'go it alone' either. There are always mates to go out with or they are invited to couples things one off as that never seems to be a problem.




As a single 50 something woman I am now unsure of what I want. Marriage doesn't hold the same ideal as it used to; I'm sure this has more to do with having children than anything else. The thought of living the rest of my life alone is not a good one but the thought of being with a partner that expects a nurse maid and cleaner doesn't fair much better.

If I'm sounding cynical I am. With one unsuccessful marriage long behind me I really do not want to make the same mistakes again. I really need a partner to be my best friend and I'm not sure that's possible or maybe the best ones are already taken. I'm not going to settle with second best so what will be will be.




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